Famous French Things Manners and Etiquette in France

Famous French Things Manners and Etiquette in France French Manners and Etiquette for Foreigners ChaptersFrench Salutations: Greeting and CourtesyCorrespondance: French Email Etiquette, Writing Letters and Answering the PhoneFrench Business EtiquetteFrench Rules and Dining EtiquetteWhen travelling abroad, it’s easy to find yourself clueless in the face of different customs, living in fear of maiking one faux pas after another.While some of them are in the guidebooks, there are also a lot of unwritten rules when interacting with strangers. So you don’t look the philistine or stumble over cultural differences, here are some of the social norms you will encounter in France - a little “Emily Post” of modern interaction. only use it for teens or women you know prefer this designation.When meeting a stranger, ALWAYS use the formal form of address. Even most French ads don’t dare to use “tu” when speaking to their customers. In other Romance languages that have a formal pronoun, it has gone out of vogue in advertising and among the younger generation, but in France you sh ould call everyone “vous” unless you get told otherwise. Or you can try listening to how others address you.The younger generation might immediately start with “tutoyer” (using “tu”) - if others address you with “tu”, you can address them with “tu” (unless it’s your boss). In a formal context such as work or when you interact with the older generation, continue to “vouvoyer” until they tell you it’s all right to use “tu”.Correspondance: French Email Etiquette, Writing Letters and Answering the PhoneFrench is fairly formal in its correspondance, and this has survived the digital age. The terms of address for formal letters may appear very stilted to English speakers; however, telephone etiquette is very lax.Addressing letters in FrenchWhen writing letters, it is better to be too formal than not enough. Use “vous” with anyone who is not family or an intimate friend.Your letter should include the address of the person you are writing to, your own add ress, the date and place you are writing from.All letters should start with:“cher Monsieur” or “chère Madame” and their last nameUnless the person has a title, then use the title rather than their name: “Monsieur le directeur”, “Madame la Consul”.The equivalent to the English “To Whom It May Concern” is “Cher Monsieur, chère Madame” or “chers Messieurs, chères Mesdames” if you think several people with be viewing the letter (for a job application, for example.)Ending a letter is more problematic. There are many variations on the formules de politesse (you will find a mix-and-match table here), but you will probably be safe with “Veuillez agréer, Monsieur/Madame [insert title or name here] à l’expression de mes sentiments distingués”, though if you are a man writing to a woman, you might want to replace “sentiments” with “salutations”.French email etiquetteIn France, email etiquette is a little bit less formal than letters, but it is st ill better to follow the formalities. You can then take the tone from the answer you receive.Of course, social networking is as informal in France as anywhere else - just make sure your tone remains polite when tweeting or posting on social media in a discussion about your favourite French writers. Nobody likes a troll.French phone etiquetteMost French people simply answer the phone with “Allô?”. There is no fixed etiquette for answering a business phone. You should start with “bonjour” instead of “allô”; then you might go on with “ici [your name] chez [name of business]”.If you are the caller, start with “bonjour, [your name] à l’appareil”.French Business EtiquetteWorkplace etiquette is quite similar all over the the world. However, it is a tad more formal in France compared to some other countries.Everyday rules of conduct at the workplaceThere is no such thing as casual Friday, so be sure you wear the appropriate business dress - though younger startups m ight not be as formal as older, established firms or an international business. Make sure you shake hands when meeting someone, firmly but not squeezing, while maintaing eye contact; use “vous” unless instructed otherwise and call your colleagues “monsieur” and “madame” until they allow the use of their names. First names in the workplace are not common in the French business world.Be careful with certain gestures - our gesture for “ok” means “zero” in French. Observe your colleagues and how they use their hands.It's easy to feel lost trying to figure out French business etiquette. Here is a short guide of some of the most important points of business manners. Photo on VisualhuntMeeting etiquetteExpect meetings to be scheduled ahead of time - up to two weeks. Spontaneous meetings are frowned upon, unless the matter is very urgent.Be certain to arrive on time (especially for a job interview). French business culture’s views on punctuality fluctuate from firm to firm. Officially, you should always come on time to a business meeting for fear of appearing unprofessional. However, your colleagues may have a more lax approach to punctuality. Be on time to make a good first impression; as you spend more time in the firm, you will learn the in-company dos and don’ts of punctuality.When doing business, any over-aggressive tactics, such as gifts with the name of your firm or forceful selling tactics, are considered inappropriate. Everyone knows you want to sell them something. They expect the pitch to be presented politely and professionally; they want to be convinced by the product, not the show. Remember, the French are philosophers and will see through the glitter.The exchange of business cards is acceptable, but not until the end of the interview.However, don’t be surprised if others interrupt you to ask questions or clarify a point. It’s not considered rude, but a sign of interest in what you have to say.Also, giving gifts to your busine ss colleague is not usual, even books by your favourite French writer - promoting a collegial attitude in the workplace is better done with dinner invitations.French Rules and Dining EtiquetteDo you know how invitations to a wedding have a request to “RSVP” to the bride’s family? This stands for “répondez s’il vous plaît” - please respond (to let the host know you are coming) - and if you see it on a French invitation to someone’s house you should definitely phone or write to tell them you will be there.Navigate French table manners with this Superprof post. Photo on VisualHuntWhen you are invited to someone’s house is the only situation where you should not arrive on time. It is considered respectful to arrive a quarter of an hour after the time stated on the invitation - this gives the host or hostess time for some last-minute touches. If you are running more than fifteen minutes late, however, you should phone in to let them know.Informal wear simply means you d on’t need a tuxedo. You should still dress elegantly.A small gift for the host or hostess is appreciated. If you want to gift flowers, have them sent in the morning so they can be arranged for the evening. If you are bringing wine, don’t expect the host to decant it immediately - they will already have chosen the perfect wine to complement the meal.If you are the host, know when setting the table that the cutlery is put down with the tangs and spoon curving up - if you look carefully at French silver, you will see that the decoration on the fork and spoon is invisible unless you put them down properly.Table manners include politely waiting to be seated (depending on the formality of the setting, there might be assigned seating); gentlemen might still hold out the ladies’s chairs for them. Keep your hands on the table at all times. In Europe it is uncommon to switch hands when using knife and fork; if you are an American who somehow stumbled onto this blog, try to get used to e ating with the left hand, using the right only to cut.The knife will often rest on a little knife-holder to keep the tablecloth clean; if none is visible, simply set the knife down next your plate rather than on it when not in use.Be sure to dab your mouth with your napkin before drinking from a glass. When getting up after dinner, don’t fold your napkin, as that suggests you want to come back for more later on.The dinner will be set down at the centre of the table; everyone can take as they like. Consider taking a small portion as it’s considered rude to leave food on your plate. Asking for seconds is considered rude, but you can accept them if they are offered. Don’t worry - there will be enough to eat! There will be cheese after the main course - and don’t forget that pudding is yet to come.Also: don’t plan anything else that evening. French meals are leisurely and generally have several courses, with ample time for discussion and the latest gossip about French celebrit ies (and, of course, networking).After a dinner invitation, a gracious thank-you note is considered good manners, especially between colleagues.Of course, the norms are not as formal between friends - attend one or two social gatherings among your acquaintances before sending out your own invitations to see what the unwritten rules of your circle might be, and don’t hesitate to ask other invitees about gifts and notes.Anything not covered in this article, such as wedding etiquette or the rules of etiquette pertaining to the office cubicle, can be gleaned from the many etiquette books out there - or ask one of our native French Superprof tutors to help you navigate social etiquette! Look out for 'french classes london' when you're next online and discover what more you could learn.